It won't be an easy thing for him to hear, but I think its a necessary one. I'm not sure who your father is but it isn't me. I am sorry to hear you're going through a hard time. Me and your mom were never married, and when I took a paternity test it came back negative. I don't want you to feel any further rejection by me ignoring you, so I'll share with you the truth. U/Thin-Manufacturer892 gave the OP some advice in a top comment with over 17,000 upvotes, "Maybe he doesn't need the details of his mother? Maybe just the facts, in a really kind way, like 'hi I'm sorry to hear you're struggling. Redditors were quick to defend the OP in the comment section, Dad Dragged for Buying Dollar Store Shampoo for Daughter He Doubts Is His.Man Insists Gay Co-Worker Take Paternity Test After His Wife Gives Birth.'You Are Not My Dad': Man Dragged for Threatening Teenager's College Fund.Later on, Damien sent the OP an apology, and all the mean comments about OP have been deleted. OP got a copy of the paternity test and insisted to Allie that "the truth must come out and the lies about my character must be stopped." He gave her a limited amount of time before he sends the test to Damien himself. OP believes that leaving him believing the wrong thing is cruel as well. However, OP's wife doesn't think it's a good idea as it could be "cruel" and just not respond.
OP has the plan to tell Damien carefully that he is not his father and what happened between OP and his mother. When telling his wife the story, they both agreed that Damien doesn't know that the OP is not his biological father.
"Some parts really stood out though, things like 'You need to be supporting your REAL son' and 'How do you think it feels when I have to tell people that my own father abandoned me the minute I was born? How could you abandon your own flesh and blood and get re-married like it was nothin while my mom and I grew up poor?' Among other things." he continued. He sent me a multi paragraph message on FB calling me an for ditching 'my real wife' (Allie and I never married) for a do-over family and that I should be supporting them, and a bunch of other s**t." I never took the bait until he reached out to me himself. He wrote, "Some old friends also informed me that Damien would post nasty things on social media about his dad who left him when he was born.
Every so often, Allie would reach out and ask for money or see if OP wanted to see Damien, but OP ended up blocking her. He reveals that he has no contact with Allie or Damien. fizkes/iStock / Getty Images PlusĪlmost two decades later, OP has a wife and three kids. The internet has defended a man on Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum for insisting on showing "son" paternity test results.